Voluntary Censorship or Debate?

One of the great things about the web is that people can argue, debate and generally go back and forth about their ideas. Sometimes it can be calm, or heated and sometimes people can start screaming at each other (to the extent that one CAN "scream" in text) But one thing I find particularly vulgar is for person A to actually request that person B change the very words they wrote in order better satisfy person A. Is this voluntary censorship or debate? This is a fine line I'll grant you, but to me there is no grey area here. It is the difference between a real argument and self-censorship.

Censorship is wrong because it is a lie. If you alter the original idea you are fundamentally violating the author's ideas. No matter what positive end you hope to gain by altering the words it is still a lie. It is perfectly fine to challenge a person's ideas, to tell them why you think they're wrong, even to scream at them what an asshole they are. But to try and craft another individual's words to better suit your ideas about HOW they should come across to others is a terrible insult. It's so feeble-minded to try and do that. It shows that you don't really have an adequate response to their message but only wish that they hadn't said it like that. How weak!

How dare anyone seek to change what you say or how you say it by these mealy-mouthed requests! People's minds are changed and new ideas are gained by a long and continuous string of unfettered communication, not by going in 'behind the scenes' and tinkering with the parts. That to me smacks of poltics and bureaucracy rather than a free exchange of ideas. It goes a step backward from genuine persuasion. It is one thing if you are writing an article and working with an editor who wants to change your words around, but here I am speaking of online communication between people. Opinions vs. opinions.

Challenge people about what they say, but don't be so rude and self-important to make them change how they say it or what words they should or should not use. Offer your own idea in turn and explain why you think you're right. Don't tinker with the semantics! You may achieve the same ends after all.